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Even in the depths of labour he makes me laugh 🤣♥️ @Joel Bushby

There's nothing quite like those first smiles 😭🩵

I had a vision for my birthday outfit, but the chosen outfit did not fit 🤣🤣🤣 That's okay...a price I'm happy to pay to have my son here for my birthday this year 🩵

The morning I went into labour I didn't quite know I was in labour just yet.... And to be honest it wasn't an ideal day as we had a lot on, Joel was under the pump with the business and it was just "one of those days" My reason for posting this is to not only show the realness of a natural labour & birth (I've cut out the actual birth of Rivah as it's a little bit too much for the internet)🤣 But to also appreciate just how amazing this man right here is & how he started his day overwhelmed & in no state to be coaching me through a 17 hour labour & birth to completely forgetting all of his problems & transforming into the worlds best & most supportive birth partner. It's funny how when the things that actually matter in life show up, all the other insignificant things that we were worried about dissolve. Birthing Rivah naturally was by far the hardest and most painful thing I've ever experienced & I'm so Effen proud of myself but as you saw, there were countless moments I wanted to give up and really believed that I couldn't do it. So when I say I couldn't have done it without @Joel Bushby , I really mean that as i was ready to give up & truly believed that the pain I was feeling was bigger then me. He reminded me every step of the way of my true strength & power 🥹♥️ Birth is beautiful, it's painful & it's transformative. I hope that sharing some of this raw footage is a reminder to any new mums out there expecting to not be afraid of birth, but to look forward to this portal that's going to transform your life in all the best ways possible. & to also remind you that you're stronger then you think mama 🩵💪🏻

Worth every tear drop & every bit of pain to have you in my arms 🩵 #dontgiveup #pregnancyjourney

My first outing with my little Bambini 🩵 Anyone think I arrived In a Lamborghini having bubba in his pram 😂 Only the best for our little man 💫 @Bambini Prams ♥️

What I was made for ♥️

Introducing Rivah to our King Parrot friends that visit us each day 🦜 Moments like this really are so special & I'll hold onto these memories for a lifetime 🥹♥️

A love like no other 🩵 #boymum #blessed

It was so nice to get dressed up & leave the house 3 weeks post birth 🩷 prior to that i was a hermit & looked homeless most days 😂💁🏼‍♀️ I love being your mama sweet boy ❤️ I also love feeling appreciated & admired in such a vulnerable time @Joel Bushby 💫

My new 24:7 & I wouldn't have it any other way 🩵 Bubba just doesn't want to be apart from me at all which is understandable given he was born 4 weeks premature and babies really do crave that closeness to mum during the 4th trimester. I can't imagine how overwhelming the big wide world is to babies given they've been in a warm safe cocoon for so long, it wouldn't be easy being this tiny & vulnerable 🥹 This is certainly making doing anything for myself a little challenging 🥲 but I'm doing my best 🙏🏻 Rivah is honestly a dream & we are just obsessed with how perfect he is! @Joel Bushby has been incredible helping me run the house, company & animals as my time & energy has recently taken a huge shift navigating & tending to our little man.....he's such a hands on dad & it makes me so happy 🥹 I feel that Dads could easily take a back seat during this newborn season as the babies need mum so much it would be quite easy for Dads to feel left out or not needed however even though there hasn't been too much he can do with Bub, Joel has made it his mission to be the rock of this family, protect, provide & show up in every way he can to ensure I feel supported through this transition to motherhood 🥹♥️ Something I am truly very grateful for as I won't lie, my emotions have been a roller coaster lately & although I'm SO HAPPY, it's also not easy. So an update: Riv is cluster feeding at the moment & given I'm breastfeeding this is a very demanding full time job 🤣 He's growing right before our eyes & I'm soaking it all in staring at him 24:7 to make sure I don't miss a thing 🥹🩵 He's sleeping really well he's just hungry all the time like his Dadda 🤣 What a gift it is to be a mother...to be his mama 💫 I'm loving this season so much & as I approach my birthday this week it's got me crying at the thought of "I literally have the best birthday present ever" 😭

Rivah's first walk along the River 🩵 Leaving the house now is a whole thing 🤣 I used to put my shoes on and off I go. Now I pack what feels like my whole life into the car just to go for a walk 🤣 Ive quickly learnt i need options A,B,C & D so bubba doesnt lose it & so im prepared for unexpected chaos! I cant imagine how overwhelming all the stimulation of the world is for them 🥹 Maybe I'm over the top but i take Rivahs happiness very seriously & will always do my best to make sure he feels safe & happy 🩵 Its funny since being a mum I've already been presented with an abundance of unsolicited opinions & judgements such as "I should just let him cry" etc... Well im sorry to inform yall but I'm just not that kind of mama 💁🏼‍♀️ I may do things wrong but it feels right for me & for Rivah + thats all that matters 🩵🩵🩵

#ad Being a new mum I've quickly realised that breastfeeding is one of the toughest jobs on the planet..🩵 What makes it a little easier is the connection you feel with your baby & seeing those little eyes look up at you 🥹 Its honestly so amazing that my body was able to grow this little human & now it's producing all that he needs to stay alive & thrive. 🤯 & prior to Rivah arriving I did my research on ways I can help myself during this time, I decided on getting the M5 breast pump from @Momcozy Official so that although I chose the full time job of breastfeeding, I was also able to express on the go & stock up to help free up my time here & there along with giving his Dad the opportunity to bond with him over a glass of milk 🥛 🩵 Their maternity bra's caught my eye as they looked so simple but classy so I stocked up on those also 🤣💁🏼‍♀️ Being a first time mum it was a whole new world for me & I had no idea what id need or not need, I'm just grateful i live in a time where we have the best inventions ever to help make life a little easier ♥️ For all my mums out there, you can use my code STEPHA30 for a sneaky lil discount 🌸

Help a sis out 🩷

My first mum life update & some real talk on my current anxieties 🩷 Am I the only one that thinks like this?

Mum life realities ♥️ You're now 24/7 on call to a little human that needs you in every way to survive and thrive. It's the most beautiful and also the hardest thing you'll ever do. You're running on little to no sleep, but it's okay because his little content face & his well being is more important than anything else right now. You're still healing from birth & accepting your new mum bod whilst also thinking how incredible your body is for doing and creating what it's just done 🤯 You look like you just got out of bed majority of the day and when you do get dressed up it took you double the time usually does as you're navigating newborn needs at the same time as trying to get ready to go anywhere. You get maybe ten minutes here and there if you're lucky to have a quick shower or take a breath, and when you are away from them even just for that little moment, you miss them and swear you just heard them cry. (I can't tell you the amount of times I've run out of the shower thinking he's crying and he's asleep 🤣) You're trying to navigate your household the same way you did prior & you feel overwhelmed at the thought of all the things you could be doing but instead you're nursing your perfect little miracle every half an hour as they're now cluster feeding making sure nature provides them with more milk supply so they can grow big and strong. You've never felt more happy, more love & more pure awe at something you grew inside you for 9 months, you're constantly staring at them thinking how did I get so lucky whilst tears are streaming down your face. I wanted to share a few realities to convey that I certainly am not one of those influencers you see having a baby and their life is perfectly perfect. I cry daily. I feel overwhelmed & over stimulated. I'm exhausted but I'm starting to adjust and function a lot better to no sleep now which is great. I'm also the HAPPIEST and most GRATEFUL I've ever been and I wouldn't trade any of it for the world. Mamas, I see you & I have a new found respect for all that women do for this world. We really are super heroes & I just think the miracle of life should be celebrated more, in all its glory, not just the Instagram worthy highlights. Celebrating the highs but also the lows and making sure that every mama out there knows they're doing an AMAZING job even if they feel like they aren't. Who run the world? MUMS! ❤️

My first official workout postpartum 🩷 (this was filmed at 3 weeks PP) & yes I felt great afterwards 🥰 With bubba here now, my time to myself is very limited especially at the moment as his new favourite place to sleep is on me & only me 🤣 Which makes getting anything done quite a challenge. I've actually discovered many new skills since being a mum, it's amazing what you can do whilst holding your baby 🤣 Prior to Rivah's arrival I'd had other mamas recommend baby wearing & how much of a game changer it is, so I did my research & joined the baby wearing community 💁🏼‍♀️ I feel so good getting back moving my body & strengthening myself so that I can keep up with this little man when he's on the run 🩵 & for all those busy bodies who would like to inform me that I shouldn't be training at all or that baby wearing isn't okay, please refrain from commenting & just know I am over here just being the best mum I can, taking care of my body & my baby. 🩵 @Mumma_etc

All I've ever wanted for Christmas was you ♥️

Now that Bubba is looking around taking the world in we thought it was time to introduce him to big Dante boy 🥹♥️ I love how sweet Dante has been with him, they're going to be besties I just know it! Feeling so overwhelmingly grateful for the blessings in my life right now. Although managing caring for my newborn baby along with my doggies & horses has been challenging...my hands are full that's for sure, but thank god they aren't empty 🙏🏻